Sometimes relationships can seem like a lot of work until you sit back and realise just how much you’ve been given. A thriving, healthy relationship requires some give and take, and is absolutely within your reach if you and your partner are willing to do a bit of work. If you and your partner are right for each other, all the work will definitely be worth it in the long run. There are both things you must do independently and together to help sustain a healthy relationship as i am going to explain to you.
1) Things you must do independently.
-Take responsibility for your own happiness. Save yourself hours of arguing by remembering this one rule; it’s not up to anyone else to make you happy. In a relationship your partner will almost definitely try to make you happy but in the end you are responsible for your happiness.
-Make good on your words. Always follow your promises. When you say you’re going to do something, do it. Don’t just say that you’ll take him or her to the cinema, and the blow it off or simply forget about it. What this does is destroy your relationship’s trust, and relationships need trust in order to thrive.
-Listen to your partner. Sometimes, all your partner ever wants you to do is to lend an ear and be sympathetic about one of their problems. Other times, your partner may want you to actively give them advice. You should know which one your partner is looking for, and try to give them what they want. Being a good listener is all about paying attention to what they are saying and not blowing it off.
-Always make sure to notice your partner and compliment them. It will make them feel appreciated. Has your partner got a new dress or has changed their hairstyle? Then tell them. Your suggestions and opinions can make their day.
-Sweet talking. Make them happy the minute they are awake. A simple ‘Good morning beautiful’ would be an amazing start to your partner’s day. Send them texts when you are missing them. They would definitely start to feel more loved.
2) Things that you must do together.
-Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go of the pas and focusing on the present. It’s about taking control of your current situation, as you must offer it to your partner as much as you demand it from them.
-Laugh together. Laugh at one another with the security of love. Laughter helps the world go round, and it may with your relationship, too. Laughter can be comforting, infectious , and many things in between. So, don’t forget to laugh.
-Support each other. Being supportive means that you’re making your partner’s happiness and well-being a priority, in ways big and small. Keep in mind that part of why you’re together in the first place is that you’re biggest fans of each other, so make sure you act like it. Try demonstrating your support but listening, encouraging and provide a safe place.
-Devote time to each other. Make spending time with your partner a priority, even if it’s a little inconvenient at first. Relationships need shared experiences to grow, and you’re demonstrating that nurturing yours is important to you.
-Develop better communication. Most people aren’t born great communicators – it’s something nearly everyone has to work at. The way you talk to your partner might seem small, but you do it several times a day and it does have an effect.